Parents who are having difficulties having children will ultimately desire to adopt a child. While there are some concerns regarding the originating family as well as the background, many couples have managed to create and forge a happy, strong family unit even without the bonds of blood.
Admittedly, adopting a child can be difficult, and we are not just talking about the legal requirements and all the paperwork that come with the adoption process. Orphans, foster, and homeless children may have emotional and trust issues, especially those who have been bypassed for adoption or have been transferred from one home or institution to another.
If you are determined to adopt a child and forge a last relationship, here are some useful tips that you should take into consideration…
- Just because the child is not of your blood, you should avoid being detached from him/her. Neither should you neglect him/her. Be involved with their lives. For example, instead of just showing them how to use a fork and knife, you can take their hands and teach them how to use it. Help them in doing daily chores. In this way, even routine activities can be transformed into bonding moments.
- Make time to play games or enjoy recreational activities with the child. You can invite the parents and kids of your neighbor and play team games. By working as a team to win games, you will help in strengthening the ties between you.
- Show an active interest in the child’s hobbies and other activities that he/she likes to do. If the child is gifted in the arts, like drawing and handicrafts, encourage him/her by helping them buy the needed supplies. Do these hobbies together. Why not make a painting together which you can later frame and hang on the wall? If the child is interested in sports, play with them. You can even ask him/her to teach you, like for example you don’t know how to play basketball or swim.
- Take time off. A lot of parents ultimately get caught up in the daily grind of earning a living that they neglect the emotional needs of the adopted child. Make it a point to reserve your evenings for playing with them or watching TV or helping them with their homework. For weekends, plan outdoor activities. It can be something as simple as a picnic in the park or you can take them shopping at the mall.
- Let your child feel important and help build confidence and self-esteem. There is nothing an adopted child wants more than to have their adoptive parents need them. Let them help you with the household chores. You can also ask them to run errands for you at the convenience store or grocery.
- If you should eventually have a baby of your own, don’t neglect your adopted child. Many poor children are brought back to the orphanage or other institution when couples have a baby. Once you decide to adopt, consider first and foremost the well being of the adopted child. Don’t just “throw” him/her away once you have a child of your own. Let your adopted help you in caring for the new baby and treat it as a sibling.